Greetings Everybody,
In this month’s newsletter I will be bringing to light a misunderstanding that many of us fall into; known as the illusion of “I’ll be happy when…” Quite often we stop ourselves from being in the present moment and enjoying life as over time we become conditioned into believing that there is somewhere in the future we are trying to get to. Then we start thinking that getting “there” is way better than being “here.” This leaves us feeling like we cannot be truly happy in this moment now because we are trying to get to that place that we will be happy in.
Have you ever found yourself saying “I’ll be happy when I find the right partner in life.” or “I’ll be happy when I go on holiday.” and another one of my old time favorites is “I’ll be happy when I am working that dream job that I’ve always wanted”?
So often we chase our inner future ruse that will bring us happiness we just make ourselves miserable inside because we are all chasing a thing, place or person that will bring us happiness in the future and thus not enjoying the moment. We don’t stop to enjoy the pleasant feeling of a soft breeze caressing your face, or when it has recently rained and the beautiful fresh scent in the air. We may even cheat ourselves out of enjoying a pleasant moment with a loved one in our life because we are so focused on reaching our future state that somehow seems to be unreachable.
So what is going on in the situation is that we’re dictating our present circumstances by focusing on chasing the future and it is influencing our inner core state. For myself when I had my own realization of what I was doing and what it was causing in my present life it was profound and I stopped chasing the illusion of “I’ll be happy when…” and started enjoying the now, because all we truly have at the end of the day is now, the past to gone and the future is not here yet. My message to you is reflect on yourself; do you find yourself saying that you will be happy when you achieve getting to there and getting out of here? The illusion of “I’ll be happy when…” will leave you constantly chasing tomorrows abundance by sacrificing the abundance surrounding you today.
If you have any questions, thoughts, comments or need some help in getting out of the illusion of “I’ll be happy when…” please feel free to contact me.
May you all be well in spirit and health,
~Peter Lorean CLC, CHt
References
Smart, J. (2013). Clarity: Clear mind, better performance, bigger results. London, United Kingdom: Capstone Publishing.